A bad case of ugly mom.
I've been super grumpy with my kids. There's been little laughter at my house.I can't put my finger on the cause.Words that come to mind areTIREDSELFISHOVERWHELMEDNITPICKYSERIOUSI got really mad at my four year old tonight. She won't stay in bed after I tuck her in.She bugs her older sister.And then the 2 boys get involved.Pretty soon I add to it all with my booming shouts.No change.So I stomp up the stairs.Paddle her bum. I don't believe in spanking.It doesn't work.Mostly because when I went downstairs I felt awful and I know she wasn't thinking about improving her actions in any way.All she was feeling, was hurt, madness, and belittlement.The same thing I felt when I was four, nine, twelve.I hate coercion in any shape or form,but this week I've used it over and over and right now I'm tears.I know better but I 'm stuck in a big horrible rut.Hopefully I'll get myself out somehow.
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I'm glad you are human, but I know how you feel. It is so frustrating at times and it sucks when everyone is unhappy. If I find a magical answer I will let you know...or if you find it, let me know :) I hope tomorrow is a better day! Thinking of you~
ReplyDeletechin up Kim. :) We all have those days when we are less than stellar. But we try the next day to do better. Don't beat yourself up. You are wonderful.
ReplyDeleteYou need some fresh air. REALLY. It is winter, hard on moms and kids. Have your husband or a friend take all the kids to the park and run wild while you go shopping with a girlfriend. Don't feel too bad about the spanking, it happens to the best of us. My mom is the best mom in the world (really, she is) and she spanked me and I am so over it. I hardly blame her-she had 7 of us! Four kids is tough. My brother has 3 boys/1 girl. They just got a piano. That same day, their little boy took 2 bites out of the front of the piano and left big teeth marks. Go fig. Hang in there! Tell the 4 yr. old if she's good she can have a Valentine's day treat at my house on Tues.! And don't feel bad about coercion. Most of the people that write all that parenting crap are too judgmental. My mom says, if the binkie keeps 'em quiet, use it! Meaning, do what you can to survive and not go crazy.
ReplyDeleteIt will get better!! Sometimes it is so hard to do all that is required of us. I always get impatient with my family if I am stressed in other ways. We all have periods of time like this, and we make it through. I hope you feel better...i know you are an awesome mom!!
ReplyDeleteI love you!
ReplyDeleteIt was like starting the day with desert when I ran into you at the store the other morning.