One of the best times to talk to my oldest is when I'm cutting his hair. I've been trying to follow up with as much as possible about THE talk. Talking about sex will not be a one time event but an ongoing discussion in our home. In fact our 2nd oldest will get his first talk after he turns 8 in December this year.
I sat Devon down in the chair and draped the cape around his little neck.- He's so not built like Jeff and I. Skinny boy.
"So Bud. Do you remember what we talked about the last time I cut your hair?" "Yeeeahh?", he said blushing a bit. "Do you have any questions you want to ask or anything your worried about." "Ummmm. Not really." Now, at this moment I know how awkward he must of felt, because I remember how I felt, when I asked my mom questions. I only talked to her a couple of times though. Everything else I knew about sex I learned in middle school, high school, movies, soap operas, etc. UMMMMM!!! NOT WHAT I WANT FOR MY KIDS.!!!!
My hopes in talking to him as much as possible about sex is to teach him the happiness it can bring when it happens at the right time-with your wife, the woman you want to give your heart, soul, whole body and self to. In fact, as my daughter and I said prayers the other night we prayed for the man that she would marry someday. I hope that my children will have a clear picture in their minds about Love, sex and I can teach them how to have a healthy relationship with their spouses someday. Its really important to me.
#2Discovery
I need to make scripture study a more consistent priority in our home. Yesterday, at Stake conference a wonderful woman talked about how important it is for our children to know that we love the Scriptures. What she said during her talk REALLY pricked my heart. Tonight we will be setting up a program for our family during FHE.
#3 Discovery
I need to love my kids more. I mean really grab them, hug them, kiss them, tell them how much I adore them. This last week I was loving on my baby and thought I could just eat her up. She's 3 now, but is still so stinkin' cute. We had such a sweet time snuggling and laughing. After we got done playing I thought about how much things change when kids grow. I don't love on my older kids like I do her and they probably need it more.
#4 Discovery
When my kids are teenagers I don't want to gossip about them to my friends. Sure, its good to talk to other moms about parenting wows but about only the generalities. I want to build trusting relationships with my kids at a time that can sometimes be a crazy time. If they even get wind of me betraying a trust I would hate to think how it could change our relationship.
# 5 Discovery
Its so difficult not to talk about people when they're not around. A lot of people asked me about my dad this weekend and I could've divulged info that nobody else really needs to know. I really wanted to. I think it gives you something to talk about, other than the weather. Isn't it funny how we talk about other people so easily. Especially if they've done us wrong. It can be therapeutic but at the same time I really wish I was better about talking to the person face to face if I have a problem with them. This is something I'm really really wanting to master.
#6 Discovery
I would love to perform on stage. I've tried it once and failed miserably but I still think I'd like to someday. I watched my niece this weekend and was so jealous that she got to perform in such an amazing production.
# 7 Discovery
Jeff and I have lived in the same stake for almost 59 years combined. This weekend at Stake Conference I realized that I will really really really miss rubbing shoulders with so many people I love. Our move will bring change that I look forward to. It will be a new adventure. I've always wanted to be the new girl. We're staying in the same city but it seems like it will be a whole different planet. I'm sad we won't see people we love as much.
#8 To be adored you must be adorable (not horrible). Sometimes I'm down right cantankerous. I'd like to know the secret to a perma grin other than Botox. I suppose a perma grin comes with exaltation and not in this life. I think that's where enduring to the end comes in.
#9 I need to spend more time pondering in the scriptures. Whitney understands why they are so important. She told me the other day that we have them so we can know who God is. She's been carrying around a mini Book of Mormon. She's been an such a sweet little example to me.
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What a great list. You are a wonderful example to all those around you. I love seeing your growth. You inspire me.
ReplyDeleteWe have had bits and pieces of "the talk" with Hannah, but we're still trying to find that right way and the right time (when she is ready) to discuss everything. (And when I say we, I really mean I...Spencer cringes when I even bring up the subject ;)
ReplyDeleteI think you are on a great path of trust with your children. You are such a wonderful mother.
Loved this list, Kimi!!
Kimi you are cute, I love your discoveries and you are going to be the sweet red-headed new girl that everyone wants to meet! I am excited for you guys and your move into a new home and I can't wait to see it!
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