Riverfront Park
Farris Wheel ride with my son.
"Do you know what people do on Farris Wheel rides?" "NO". "They kiss."
He smirked.
"You should give me a kiss, it's tradition."
He puckered up,got me on the cheek.
I took a picture.
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Last night I tucked him in.We talked about kissing.He's nearly 10.Tomorrow he'll be nearly 16.I've taught him that he'll want to kiss a girl.I've taught him about sex.Someday,it will fill his thoughts.How can it not.To think otherwise is naive.Posters at the mall,movies,magazines in the grocery line,a picture at some boys' house.An image online.Peers who share too much. I reminded him the feelings,they are wonderful.God given.With them he can have a family.With them he will have the love of his life.But,at 11,12,13,14,15,16,17, 18......if he kisses a girl,and its not the kind of kiss he'd give his mama,it will be difficult to keep those feelings under control.Especially if she kisses his ear,or his neck.Its too sensitive there.He looks a bit embarrassed.I feel comfortable.He needs to be taught.I was 15 once.I sat in car and gave a kiss goodnight.You might think, 10????!!!I started when he was 8.His sex eduction will be taught in the loving arms of his mother.Teach him before he's in the middle of it.Teach him its normal.Teach him how to control this power.Teach him a peck on the cheek is tender.Teach him to respect.Teach him lust vs. love.Teach him to understand what happiness will be his if he waits for the Girl.The girl he will marry and love forever.Teach him the girls he dates should have his standards. Teach him he may be the only boy in control.Teach him to be strong no matter what anyone says or does.Teach him to respect a girl's family. Teach him to shake a father's hand with a firm hand and look him in the eye.Teach.Teach.Teach.Care.Think.Remember.My privilege.My responsibility.
His little sister just turned 8.Next month she will sit and learn from her parents.I will sit her on my lap.I will hold her in my arms.I will pray with her.I will teach her about love.I will teach her about wonderful desires. Desires given by God,For love For family.Its his plan.It works when we obey,when we control.Joy is the result.Joy that will radiate love and self-respect.
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You're amazing. I wish I knew the right words to say to my kids.
ReplyDeleteBeautiful. You are an amazing Mom. My Dad and Mom taught me similarly. One time, when I was 26 talking to a girl friend of mine who was 33 and both of us were virgins, she said, "don't you just want to sleep with a guy just because you are sick and tired of waiting?" I literally thought and then said, "Yuck. No. I want to sleep with a guy for sure, but I want it to by the right guy, at the right time, under the right circumstances. If I were to mess up and do it before, it would literally break my parents' hearts." I went home that night to my lonely apartment...all alone...and thought how lucky I was that I had such good parents to get me through the tough times as a single adult. It was completely worth the wait. I married an awesome guy and I'm so happy.
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