When kids get older

  When my kids were little people would say,
"Enjoy them when they're little, they grow up fast."
I didn't understand their advice.
How could I enjoy diapers, sleepless nights, cheerios everywhere?
Now I get it.
When they're little you can keep them safe in your own bubble.

When they're young- 
there are no bully's on a playground.
No homework to get done.
No hormones to get in the way of rational thinking.
No drama.


My little boy was happy and a easy baby.
He's in 5th grade now.
Smart,
 wants to be good,
Just made German Pancakes without any help.
He's generally a pretty easy boy at home.


He struggles at school.
With fitting in.
He has some immature quirks,
and he was diagnosed with ADD.
It's like he doesn't know how to act.
I'm trying to help him.
and school really isn't the only place that's hard for him.
with cousins,
with scouts,
generally he is the odd man out.
It makes me sick to my stomach to watch.


He's often sad and anxious.
I'm taking him to a counselor.
The other day he told her something that made me just sick.

I sent a letter to the school to bring attention to what he had described to his counselor.

 I just want him to be happy.

Odd man out or not.

Email I sent to my son's teacher,
    I called the principal yesterday and left a message but didn’t hear back.  I wanted someone to be aware of some things that my son mentioned to me.  He said that while picking teams at recess for kickball he’s always last to be picked for a team.  Which is the way it goes, I understand why that’s happening.  I can live with that. What made me cringe is what he told me next.  Boys on each team complain and swear about D having to be on their team.  He told me that there has been shoving (hard enough that he has to brace himself so that he won’t fall).  I don’t know last names but he said ______ ,__________,______ have shoved him and told him that they didn’t want him on their team. ( He did say, however, that _____ thinks D is a good pitcher, and tells everyone to let him pitch.)  _______. throws the ball at D (just to throw it at him, not when he’s trying to get him out). ______and _______ verbally bash my son with horrible swearing like the F word and other choice words when he messes up.  I’m not positive if my son's been innocent during these confrontations. We haven’t discussed that.  I will talk with him more about his behavior and see if he’s added to the contention in any way. I know kids do things in groups that they may not do on their own.  I’m not trying to make a huge fuss over this, I just wanted you to know some names and report what I’ve been told. It does hurt so much to hear about this kind of thing. I asked him why he has to play if this is going on all the time.  He said “It’s really fun mom and I just want to play.”  Like I said, I get why this happening, but even though he may act in ways that make him a target, he doesn’t feel safe.

Talk to you soon.

Thanks,

Luckily things are looking up since I sent this email.

the principal has gotten involved.

Boys who are bullying are being asked to be positive leaders.

I now this is all normal.

Its just hard.

I want so much for my kids to be liked.

To have confidence.

I'm trying so hard to help him.

♥